Are you stuck in a rut?  Having trouble dealing with that one person at work that knows just the right button to push, and does it just for sport?  Do you have trouble letting go of the small things that happen throughout your day, so they pile up and stress you out?

I think we have all been in one or all of these situations.  How we handle ourselves and deal with these issues show those around us a lot about who we are.  We all have a bad day; but is every day a bad day?

I worked in the medical field for about 20 years.  People are at their worst when they are sick, and some days you question why you do what you do because it just doesn’t seem to be worth it.  For the past six months I have been working at a school for middle and high school children with learning disabilities.  This has a whole different set of challenges to face on a daily basis.

Many years ago, when I first truly began my walk with God, I came across a Bible verse that has helped me through many difficult days.

Colossians 3 23Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men.                                   Colossians 3:23

In situations when I had a difficult patient or family member, co-worker or supervisor, I would remember this verse.  God gave me the gifts and abilities to remain calm under pressure, to be compassionate and understanding, to be patient and kind.  It is my responsibility to use those gifts to glorify him.  He is always there for me to draw strength from and sometimes the best way to draw that strength is through his word.

So, the next time that co-worker trods across that sensitive spot, remember that God made you who you are and it doesn’t matter what that co-worker thinks.  As long as you are doing your job to the absolute best of your ability and doing it as though you are doing it for God, that is what is important.

Sometimes the solution to the problem is just an adjustment in our perspective.  Whether it is your job, coaching your son’s little league team, being the troop leader for your daughter’s Girl Scout troop, do it as if you are working for the Lord and not for man.  I sure felt more fulfilled and my job was more rewarding when I adjusted my perspective.

All you have to do to change your perspective is decide who you are working for, God or man.


perspectiveGrieving is a natural process that we each must go through in our lives.  There are many reasons to grieve, not just the death of a loved one.  The key is to not get stuck in the grieving process, to allow yourself to grieve and feel all the emotions that go along with it.

We all have hopes and dreams for our children.  When one of them is diagnosed with a disability, it is important to grieve for those hopes and dreams that may not be possible.  We need to come to a place of acceptance.

My oldest son Trey was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome at the age of 7.  Trey was a wonderful blessing from God from the moment I found out I was pregnant with him.  That has never changed.  I have never asked God why he gave me a son with Asperger’s.  I have never seen him as defective or broken.  He doesn’t need to be fixed or cured of anything.  He needs acceptance and guidance to be the best person he can be, just like the rest of us.

When I explained to Trey that he has Asperger’s, I told him that it didn’t mean there was anything wrong with him, he just see’s things differently than the rest of us.  He needed to be taught some things that come naturally to most people.   I could see the relief in his eyes and on his face.  He knew he was different and now he understand why.

Trey has this amazing perspective on things.  He is very smart and at times funny.  He loves children and is very gentle and loving with them.  At times he doesn’t want to be touched or hugged and he just wants to be alone.  I usually wait for him to come hug me when he needs it.

Trey is now 12 and I wouldn’t change a thing about him, raging pre-teen hormones and all.  I am truly blessed to have him in my life.

My hope and prayer for all parents with children touched by Autism is that they can see them for the gift they are.  Learn from them as you teach them.  Don’t be embarrassed by your child.  Don’t think of them as defective, broken or damaged.  There is no cure and there doesn’t need to be one!  Allow your child to be who he is.

God doesn’t make mistakes.  

Deuteronomy 32:4

The Rock—His work is perfect; all His ways are entirely just.

A faithful God, without prejudice, He is righteous and true.”

Ps 139:13-16

13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.

14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,

16 your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.


Embrace your child as God’s wonderful creation, a gift from your heavenly father to teach and learn from, to love and be loved.


psalm 18.2

psalm 18.2The Sunday evening services at my church have been dedicated to the Psalms since the beginning of the year.  Last night we started on Psalms 18.  As I was listening to the sermon, all I could think was “God is my Superhero.”

Superheroes are more popular than ever before.  Everyone wants a hero who will swoop down and save the day when life gets hard.  Someone who will right the wrongs of the world and protect the little guy.  We all want a protector who will rescue us and help us to feel safe.

God wants to be all of those things for us.  In Psalm 18:1-3 David talks about what God is to him and to all believers.

1 I love you, O Lord, my strength.

2 The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge.

  He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.

3 I call to the Lord, who is worthy of praise, and I am saved from my enemies.

Verse one:  When life is difficult we don’t have to face it alone.  We can draw strength from God and He will carry us through.

Verse two:  The Lord is my rock, and my fortress and my deliverer in whom I take refuge.  He will give you a firm foundation to stand on when things are difficult.  He will defend you and rescue you in your time of need.  He will give you comfort.

He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.  He protects you and gives you power and safety.

Verse three:  I call to the Lord, who is worthy of praise, and I am saved from my enemies.

I call to the Lord.  He is always there ready for us to call His name.  He wants to have a relationship with us and to give us all these things.  He wants to save us from our enemy, Satan.  All we have to do is ask.  All we have to do is say, “Lord I love you; I want you to be a part of my life. I want you to protect me and save me from my enemies.”

I was involved in a car accident a few years ago and broke my right hand (I am right handed).  I had surgery, which caused a second bone to break, but they didn’t find it for three weeks.  I then had to have a second surgery to repair that fracture.  Therapy was difficult because my hand was so stiff.  I used all of my FMLA and lost my job and my insurance.  It was a difficult time in my life.  If it weren’t for God’s grace I would not have made it through.  Because of the stiffness in my hand I needed to use a CPM machine to flex and extend my hand so that I would be able to use my hand again.  It wasn’t covered by insurance.  The representative from the company that was providing it for me allowed me to use the machine at no charge.

I am currently working with Worldwide Discipleship Association leading Restoring Your Heart groups, and I also work as the art teacher at a school for children with learning disabilities.  God lead me down a new path that has been extremely rewarding. God protected me, took care of me, and provided for me when I needed Him most.

God is my Superhero.  He is always there when I need Him.  He loves me.  He protects me from Satan and gives me power and authority over him.  He gives me strength when I feel I can’t go on.  He has and always will be there for me.

How has God shown himself to be a Superhero in your life? Consider this scripture and find encouragement.

You can also read and learn more from related topics in WDA Pocket Principle

Understanding Our Enemies 

Security in Christ

Independent woman WWIII have always been an independent person.  Life has taught me that I had to be.  I have always felt it was a strength but also felt it could be a weakness at times.  I wanted to research the differences between independence and faith and was a little surprised and also encouraged by what I found.

I began by looking up the definitions of independence, faith, and trust.

  • Independence – freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others.
  • Faith – confidence or trust in a person or thing: faith in another’s ability:  belief that is not based on proof: belief in God or in the doctrines or teachings of religion.
  • Trust – reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.

Let’s look at these for a moment. In its definition independence is the lack of faith or trust in another person or thing.  Freedom from the control of another person is a good thing.  No one wants to be controlled.  It also says freedom from the support or aid of other’s.  There is the rub; we are taught that is a bad thing.  Support or aid from others is often needed and necessary.

We need to have faith in other people, to trust them to be there for us when life is tough.  We need to trust others to help us in our time of need and not feel that we have to be strong and do everything ourselves.  With independence comes loneliness because we cut ourselves off from the influence (advice), support (prayer, encouragement, accountability), and aid (help, assistance) of others.

Independence can also hurt our relationship with God.  We need to have faith and trust in him.  If we are unable to turn to him, to trust him with our troubles and needs our relationship will never be what God wants it to be.

In my search for scriptures about independence and faith I came across this one:

In the Lord, however, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman, for as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman.  But everything comes from God. I Corinthians 11:11

Read it again if you need to so what it says will sink in.

In this one verse God revealed so much to me.

Woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. Because woman came from man, and man is born of woman.

Is it sinking in yet?

Without man, woman would not exist.  Without woman, man would not exist.

Now translate this to the husband/wife relationship.

Wife is not independent of husband, nor is husband independent of wife.

God wants us to depend on our spouse, if we don’t it can’t or won’t work.  My husband needs me to depend on him just as much as I need him to depend on me.  He created us that way.  He created us to depend on each other, to have faith in each other and trust each other.  My husband and I have been married for 13 years.  He is the closest person in the world to me and I should trust him without question.  Many times over the past 13 years he has told me he would do something I asked of him.  When he didn’t do it in my timeframe I would just do it myself.  This hurt us both.  I showed a lack of trust and faith in him by completing the task myself.

With the hurts and pain that each of us faces in our lives we learn to be independent to protect ourselves from future pain.  We end up hurting ourselves and others when we don’t trust them.  I have spent several years in Restoring Your Heart groups as a participant and a leader to help me to understand myself and others.  The Grieving Your Losses and Understanding Emotions workbooks are excellent  tools to help you work through past pain.  WDA also has a Pocket Principle titled “Understanding Emotional Problems”

I challenge you to take a leap of faith and trust someone to be there when you need them.  Allow someone to do something for you instead of trying to do everything yourself.  Take a class and learn how to better understand yourself and others.

Do you hear people say they saw God and wonder why they see him and you don’t?

Do you want to see God and feel he is evading you?

Do you need to see God to help you make it through the day?

If we want to see God, we must seek him.  God has made himself completely visible to us all but we don’t take the time to look, to seek him out.  We all have busy lives between work, children and extracurricular activities.

Start seeking him slowly.  When you are driving to work in the morning or home in the afternoon look at all the beautiful things God created, and see them for the amazing things they are, God’s creations!

daisies God's creation

  • The sky – Genesis 1:6-8 And God said, “Let there be an expanse between the waters to separate water from water.” So God made the expanse and separated the water under the expanse from the water above it.  And it was so.  God called the expanse “sky.”
  • Trees and flowers – Genesis 1:11 Then God said, “Let the land produce vegetation:  seed-bearing plants and trees on the land that bear fruit with seed in it according to their various kinds.”  And it was so.
  • The sun and moon – Genesis 1:16  God made two great lights – the greater light to govern the day and the lesser light to govern the night.  He also made the stars.
  • Birds – Genesis 1:20 And God said, “Let the water teem with living creatures, and let birds fly above the earth across the expanse of the sky.”
  • Animals – Genesis 1:24 And God said, “Let the land produce living creatures according to their kinds:  livestock, creatures that move along the ground, and wild animals each according to its kind.”

Listen to uplifting music about God instead of your regular radio station.

This is a great song that really speaks to me about seeing God.

George Strait – I saw God Today

If you want to see him, seek him.  He will reveal himself to you in other ways when you start looking for him.  He will show himself to you in ways you never imagined.  You will begin to see the world differently and want to seek him out more.  Every relationship is hard, you have to work at it, and your relationship with God is no different.

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33

How will you see God today?